INCLUSIVE FEMINISM & other stuff I love, mainly: MtG, animation, video games, body modification, animals, and fashion. I post some nudity, sex, and sex toys.
Lately, I’ve been hearing this really negative attitude towards “new” sexual and romantics attractions. More than once, I’ve heard someone say, “I miss when a person was only straight, gay, and bi. It was a lot easier.” Who exactly, I must ask, was it easier for? How was it easier? Because heaven forbid you have to do a quick Google search or inquire politely to figure out what a single term means. This is an incredibly ignorant and selfish opinion, and no, it doesn’t make it less so when you sheepishly add, “Just kidding!”
It wasn’t easier for the young asexual, who went through high school feeling broken because everyone told her that she has to want sex with her boyfriend, especially if she really loves him, because that’s normal. It wasn’t easier for the pansexual, whose friends called her a whore for having affections for people of all genders. It wasn’t easier for the demisexual boy whose friends teased him about being a virgin longer than the rest, or having a very low number of ‘conquests,’ simply because he could only have sex with someone who he truly connected with. There are too many of these lesser-known orientations to list, but you get my message. It’s not easier for us. It’s terrifying, lonely, depressing, and difficult, and when you make statements like that, it’s hurtful.
The spectrum of sexual and romantic orientation is so large that it’s admittedly difficult to keep up with the many terms people have found to categorize themselves, and while plenty of people hate the use of labels, some of us need them. Some of us need to know that there are others like us, that we aren’t crazy, immature, broken, or wrong for feeling and loving the way we do. We understand that there are a lot of terms, that it can get confusing. We don’t expect you to carry around an LGBTAQ+ dictionary just in case someone says, “Hey, I’m lithrosexual.” We do expect you to understand and accept that we exist. We deserve to categorize ourselves if we so please, and we deserve to be as understood and represented as our gay, straight, and bi allies.
gamer dweebs: if you don't like the game, why don't you just make your own version? That way I can ignore it, downvote it, talk shit about it, roll my eyes when people talk about it, refuse to play it, badmouth the person who made it, steal it, play five minutes of it, write a passive aggressive jemble review about it, then pretend it was some infallibly neutral and objective invisible hand of the market that caused it to fail, then use it as an example of what happens when people don't do what I want